Working doesn’t make you a part-time mom
We all struggle.
Being a wife and mom naturally means that I have experienced my share of failures. I like to think I have a lot more wins than fails, but I have failed nonetheless. It’s a constant struggle in my mind trying to reassure myself that I’m a good mom and wife. While most of the failures that make me doubt myself are small and I can quiet them easily, some are not.
The biggest struggle I’ve had since becoming a mom is the battle of financial independence vs being actively in my child’s life everyday. I was so used to having my own money before kids and before marriage. It was very difficult to shift my mindset. There was a plan for my money and I had complete control of where it went. Even though I crave the financial independence I once had, I beat myself up about being away from my child in order to work. I know, it sounds crazy but hopefully some of you are on board with how I feel.
I’m a working mom.
I still work part-time(3 days a week) and I truly love what I do. Also, I love spending 4 whole days a week with my son. I really believe I have the best of both world right now. I’m not saying that to brag, I promise!
Actually, my purpose of writing this is completely the opposite. Although I love my situation right now, there are weeks that I am needed at work more than just the 3 days I usually work. Just last week for example, we had our annual hair cut sale and I worked 5 days a week. On top of that my mom, who watches my little one, was on vacation. My husband and I had to work things out where he was off to be with our little man and I had to be off on the days he couldn’t be. It was incredibly hard to be away from my son. Those thoughts “you’re such a bad mom” started creeping in again.
So, here’s what I want you to hear: Working DOES NOT make you any less of a parent!
Because this is something I have to constantly remind myself, I decided to come up with a list. Ya’ll know I love list! I figured having logical reasons on paper would make it easier to reassure myself in those times I doubt myself. I have used this list to look back on in times what I was really struggling. So, I thought with sharing it maybe I can help some of you as well.
Here are 6 reasons why a working mom is a great thing!
1. A working parent sets a great example.
I want my kids to have a strong work ethic like their dad and I do. Seeing me go to work when I have to shows them that being a hard worker is important.
2. I want to contribute to my family’s future, this isn’t just for me.
Financially, I want to be part of the home and future we build for our family. I have big dreams for my child and I want to be able to support him in whatever he wants to make of his life.
3. It makes me truly cherish the time I spend with my little one.
There is nothing like being away from your kids for the majority of 3 days(or more) to make you really want to just be home and spend time with them. This break give me more motivation and energy to be the best mom I can be when I am with them.
4. It teaches my child independence for both parents.
Being away from both parents while they are working is teaching my child to be more independent. He knows that even though mommy or daddy are there 100% of the time, he is just fine. This also makes those circumstances where we have to be away easier because they aren’t going to panic when you are gone.
5. Let’s just say it, we all need to talk to adults for a while.
Yes! I truly cherish the hours I get to talk to adults and have intelligent conversations. This give me a more clear head and makes me more capable of handling tough situations when I am home.
6. I come home with new perspective on the challenges/struggles I left at home that morning.
I always have a different outlook on the problems or struggles I am dealing with at home once I have been at work for a while. Whether it being a client encouraging me about a situation or just that stepping away from the issue, it brings clarity. This fresh outlook is not only great for me but my child benefits from it tremendously as well.
Remind yourself of these things!
Hopefully I can leave you with encouragement that you are doing the right thing for your child and you family. Going to work doesn’t make you a part-time mom, it makes you an incredible clear-headed example and provider for your family! There is always going to be a struggle to stay organized with a baby and you are always going to have something that makes you want to pull your hair out but working shouldn’t be one of those things. So, save this for later or maybe print it out like I did and when you start to think that you’re not the best mom you can be because you work all the time…read it!